Book Notes - The US Army Leadership Field Manual


The US Army Leadership Field Manual
The Official US Army Guide 

                                        by Center for Army Leadership

Part One – The Leader, Leadership, and the Human Dimension
Part Two – Direct Leadership: For First-line, Face-to-Face Leaders
1.     Direct Leadership Skills
2.     Direct Leadership Actions
Part Three – Organizational and Strategic Leadership
1.     Organizational Leadership – Skill and Actions
2.     Strategic Leadership – Skills and Actions

Appendix – Performance Indicators
Appendix – Character Development


1.     (Y)our mission ….is to win our wars…(Y)ou are the ones who are trained to fight. Yours is the profession of arms, the will to win, the sure knowledge that in war there is no substitute for victory; that if you lose, the nation will be destroyed… - By General Douglas MacArthur, 1962
2.     The most precious commodity with which the Army deals is the individual soldier who is the heart and soul of our combat forces. – General J Lawton Collins
3.     Just as the diamond requires three properties for its formation – carbon, heat, and pressure – successful leaders require the interaction of three properties – character, knowledge, and application. Like carbon to the diamond, character is the basic quality of the leader. But as carbon alone does not create a diamond, neither can character alone create a leader. The diamond needs heat. Man needs knowledge, study and preparation. The third property, pressure – acting in conjunction with carbon and heat – forms the diamond. Similarly, ones character, attended by knowledge, blooms through application to produce a leader. – General Edward C. Meyer
4.     “No one is more professional than I” – The Creed of the Noncommissioned Officer
5.     Leadership is “influencing” people – by providing purpose, direction, and motivation – while “operating” to accomplish the mission and improving the organization.
6.     BE, KNOW, DO
7.     When you are commanding, leading (soldiers) under conditions where physical exhaustion and privations must be ignored, where the lives of (soldiers) may be sacrificed, then, the efficiency of your leadership will depend only to a minor degree on your tactical ability. It will primarily be determined by your character, your reputation, not much for courage – which will be accepted as a matter of course – but by the previous reputation you have established for fairness, for that high-minded patriotic purpose, that quality of unswerving determination to carry through  any military task assigned to you. – General George C Marshall
8.     To our subordinates we owe everything we are or hope to be. For it is our subordinates, not our superiors, who raise us to the dizziest of professional heights, and it is our subordinates who can and will, if we deserve it, bury us in the deepest mire of disgrace. When the chips are down and our subordinates have accepted us as their leader, we don’t need any superior to tell us; we see it in their eyes and in their faces, in the barracks, on the field, and on the battle line. And on that final day when we must be ruthlessly demanding, cruel and heartless, they will rise as one to do our bidding, knowing full well that it may be their last act in this life. – Colonel Albert G Jenkins
9.     When I became the chief of staff, I set two personal goals for myself. The first was to ensure that the Army was continually prepared to go to war, and the second was to create a climate in which each member could find personal meaning and fulfillment. It is my belief that only by attainment of the second goal will we ensure the first. – GEN Edward C Meyer
10.  Everywhere you look – on the fields of athletic competition, in combat training, operations, and in civilian communities – soldiers are doing what is right. – Sergeant Major of the Army, Julius W Gates
11.  LDRSHIP
(ア)                   L – Loyalty
(イ)                   D – Duty
(ウ)                   R – Respect
(エ)                   S – Selfless Service
(オ)                   H – Honor
(カ)                   I – Integrity
(キ)                   P – Personal Courage
12. The essence of duty is acting in the absence of orders or direction from others, based on an inner sense of what is morally and professionally right. – GEN John A Wickham Jr.
13. Put the welfare of the nation, the Army, and subordinates before your own. The nation today needs men who think in terms of service to their country and not in terms of their country’s debt to them. – GEN Omar N Bradley
14. What is life without honor? Degradation is worse than death.
15. Face fear, danger, or adversity (physical or moral) – the concept of professional courage does not always mean being as tough as nails either. It also suggests a willingness to listen to the soldiers problems, to go to bat for them in a tough situation, and it means knowing just how far they can go. It also means knowing just how far they can go. It also means being willing to tell the boss when he’s wrong. – William Connelly
16. Leadership is not a natural trait, something inherited like the color of eyes of hair…. Leadership is a skill that can be studied, learned, and perfected by practice. – Noncom’s Guide
17. The will of soldiers is three times more important than their weapons. – Colonel Dandridge Malone
18. The core of a soldier is moral discipline. It is intertwined with the discipline of physical and mental achievement. Total discipline overcomes adversity, and physical stamina draws on an inner strength that says “drive on”. – William Bainbridge
19. The leader must be an aggressive thinker – always anticipating and analyzing. He must be able to make good assessments and solid tactical judgments. Brigadier Gen John Nelson
20. I learned that good judgment comes from experience and that experience grows out of mistakes. – GEN Omar Bradley
21. It is not genius which reveals to me suddenly and secretly what I should do in circumstances unexpected by others; it is thought and meditation.
22. Fatigue makes coward of us all. – GEN George Patton Jr.
23. Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy. – Aristotle, Greek philosopher
24. Never let yourself be driven by impatience or anger. One always regrets having followed the first dictates of his emotions. – Marshal de Belle Isle, French minister of war
25. Just as fire tempers iron into fine steel, so does adversity temper one’s character into firmness, tolerance, and determination. – Margaret Chase Smith
26. All soldiers are entitled to outstanding leadership; I will provide that leadership. I know my soldiers and I will always place their needs above my own. I will communicated consistently with my soldiers and never leave them uninformed. – Creed of the Noncommissioned Officer
27. The Army is an institution, not an occupation. Members take an oath of service to the nation and the Army, rather than simply accept a job … the Army has moral and ethical obligations to those who serve and their families; they, correspondingly, have responsibilities to the Army. – John Wickham Jr.
28. Readiness is the best way of truly taking care of soldiers. – Richard Kidd
29. All men are frightened. The more intelligent they are, the more they are frightened. The courageous man is the man who forces himself, in spite of his fear, to carry on. – Gen George Patton
30. A man does not have himself killed for a few half pence a day or for a petty distinction. You must speak to the soul in order to electrify the man. – Napolean Bonaparte
31. Never get so caught up in cutting wood that you forget to sharpen your axe. – James Karolchyk
32. The most important influence you have on your people is the example you set.
33. A good leader must sometimes be stubborn. Armed with the courage of his convictions, he must often fight to defend them. When he has come to a decision after thorough an analysis – and when he is sure he is right – he must stick to it even to the point of stubbornness. – GEN Omar Bradley
34. Soldiers learn to be good leaders from good leaders. – Richard Kidd
35. For most men, the matter of learning is one of personal preference. But for Army leaders, the obligation to learn, to grow in their profession, is clearly a public duty. – GEN Omar Bradley
36. To get the best out of your men, they must feel that you are their real leader and must know that they can depend upon you. – GEN John Pershing
37. Soldiers need leaders who know how to fight and how to make the right decisions. – GEN Carl Vuono
38. Making decisions, exercising command, managing, administering – those are the dynamics of our calling. Responsibility is its core. – Gen Harold K Johnson
39. A soldier may not always believe what you say, but he will never doubt what you do. – Battalion Commander’s Handbook
40. Too often we place the burden of comprehension on (those at a different level from) us, assuming both the existence of a common language and motivation. – GEN Edward C Meyer
41. If it’s dumb it’ not our policy. – Lt Gen Walter Ulmer
42. The key is not to make quick decisions, but to make timely decisions. – GEN Colin Powell
43. It is not enough to fight. It is the spirit which we bring to the fight that decides the issue. It is morale that wins the victory. – GEN George Marshall
44. A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan next week. – GEN George Patton Jr.
45. None of us is as smart as all of us. – a brigade commander
46. Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity. – GEN George Patton Jr.
47. The creative leader is one who will rewrite doctrine, employ new weapons system, develop new tactics and who pushes the state of the art. – John O Marsh
48. The best executive is the one who has sense enough to pick good men to do what he wants done, and self-restraint enough to keep from meddling with them while they do it. – Theodore Roosevelt
49. It is in the minds of the commanders that the issue of battle is really decided. – Sir Basil Liddell Hart
50. True genius resides in the capacity for evaluation of uncertain, hazardous, and conflicting information. – Sir Winston Churchill
51. Leadership is understanding people and involving them to help you do a job. That takes all of the good characteristics, like integrity, dedication of purpose, selflessness, knowledge, skill, implacability, as well as determination not to accept failure. – Admiral Arleigh Burke
52. If you have an important point to make, don’t try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile-driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it a second time – a tremendous whack! – Sir Winston Churchill
53. It is the morale of armies, as well as of nations, more than anything else, which makes victories and their results decisive. – Baron Antoine-Henri de Jomini
54. There are no victories at bargain prices. – GEN Dwight D Eisenhower
55. The higher up the chain of command, the greater is the need for boldness to be supported by a reflective mind, so that boldness does not degenerate into purposeless bursts of blind passion. – Carl von Clausewitz
56. A good soldier, whether he leads a platoon or an army, is expected to look backward as well as forward; but he must think only forward. – GEN Douglas MacArthur
57. Performance Indicators
(ア)                   Values
     Loyalty
(イ)                   Duty
(ウ)                   Respect
(エ)                   Selfless Service
(オ)                   Honor
(カ)                   Integrity
(キ)                   Personal Courage
(ク)                   Attributes
     Mental Attributes
     Physical Attributes
     Emotional Attributes
(ケ)                   Skills
     Interpersonal Skills
     Conceptual Skills
     Technical Skills
     Tactical Skills
     Actions
1.       Influencing
2.       communicating
(ア) Oral communication
(イ) Written communication
     Decision Making
     Motivating
     Operating
1.       planning and preparing
2.       executing
3.       assessing
(コ)                   Improving
(サ)                   Developing
(シ)                   Building
(ス)                   Learning

58. Character Development
(ア)                   Leaders teach values, subordinates learn the culture
(イ)                   Leaders reinforce values, subordinates comply
(ウ)                   Leaders shape the ethical climate, subordinates internalize army values

……………………………………XXX………………….
  




English Poem - WHY

WHY
........

I longed for life-
and lost the sense of belonging;
You came!

I longed for death-
and shed the fear of dying;
You forgot !

I longed for someone-
and made everybody of vying;
To hurt !

I longed for normalcy-
and ruined my peace, leaving
Me void !

I longed for struggle-
and it came before my coming;
To punch !

I longed for family-
and they kept coming-departing;
Playing see-saw !

I longed for spring-
and it left me wanting;
Not anymore!

I long for detachment-
and life leaves me wondering;
Attaching me !!

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[written during early 2000. though moving every day, life was standstill as if somewhere down under an anchor had stuck in the seabed. this poem made its way to an online poetry contest then and I knew somewhere someone recognized and resounded with same thoughts. reproducing it here as its relevance has bounced back]

English Poem - SO LONG

So long as you live - Sorrow,
I live.
So long as you live - Happiness,
I live.
So long as you give - Venom,
I give.
For
It is 'give-n-take', or
It is 'live-n-make', World.

So long as I create - Love,
You Love.
So long as I create - Hate,
You Hate.
So long as I see at - You,
You see.
So long as I see at - Few,
Few see.
For
It is 'prove worthiness', or
It is 'die darkness', World.

So long as you long for - Life,
Life betrays.
So long as you long for - Death,
Death betrays.
So long as you throng for - Heaven,
Heaven recedes.
So long as you throng for - Hell,
Hell precedes!
For
It is 'proposal vs. disposal', or
It is 'approval vs. removal', World

~~~~~~~~~~~****~~~~~~~~
[written during early 2000]

हिंदी कविता - सौंदर्य का आकर्षण

 सौंदर्य का आकर्षण


बाह्य सौंदर्य का आकर्षण
तो ईश्वर की कला है
क्योंकि केवल ईश्वर ही गढ़ सकता है
वो बेमिसाल मूर्तियाँ
जो नसीब वालों को मिलती हैं.

परमेश्वर के उत्क्रिस्टतम सांचे
जिन्हें ढाले वो क्या बांचे
स्वयं की सुन्दरता;
उसका तन जो सुन्दर है.
मन तो बाद में आएगा
जिसको कोई एक मिला
क्या अधूरा ना रह जायेगा?
और मन तो बदल सकते हो
तन बदल पाओगे?
मर जाओगे
तभी नया पाओगे.

अतः बाह्य सौंदर्य का महत्व
ना कम कर -
सफल नहीं होगा..
आनंद तभी होगा जब
तन सुन्दर  -  मन सुन्दरतम होगा.

..................इति.......................
[सुन्दरता को हिंदुस्तान में दो भागों में बाँट दिया गया है - तन की सुन्दरता और मन की सुन्दरता.
यूँ तो 'मन की सुन्दरता' की वकालत सभी करते हैं पर मन ही मन विचलित रहते हैं की काश किसी भी पसंदीदा, चश्म्दीदा, और रहस्य-दीदा मॉडल जैसा तन भी होता तो क्या बात होती. हिंदी प्रान्तों में एक कहावत भी है "मन मन भावे मुड़िया हिलावे"

मैंने सोचा की क्यूँ किसी एक की कामना की जाए, क्यूँ नहीं दोनों की अपेक्षा की जाए. और फिर किसी भी एक की बुराई क्यूँ? जब इंसान को दोनों हासिल हैं तो दोनों में कुछ तो खूबियाँ होंगी. दोनों को हासिल करने का ये सन्देश भी है और प्रयास भी. तन और मन, दोनों की सुन्दरता का एक सा महत्व है और एक सी आवश्यकता. १९९९ की मुंबई में सपनों को तलाशते हुए भावनाओ की ठेस खायी और इस रचना की उत्पत्ति हुई.]

Subhash Chandra Bose & Bahadur Shah Zafar

What is common in these two great personalities of undivided India that the posterity chose to forget them? They remain enigmatic as they remained unsung, despite their internal battles and external wars.
Their spirit was undying and unconditional but how cruel their motherland :मातृभूमि: has been to them - they both did not get rest in their motherland. 
One said it and the other itched to say but we did not allow him even his spiritual right !!

Bahadur Shah Zafar wrote from his Rangoon (British Burma) prison:

कितना है बदनसीब “ज़फ़र″ दफ़्न के लिए
दो गज़ ज़मीन भी न मिली कू-ए-यार में
kitnā hé bad-naseeb zafar dafn ke liye
do gaz zamīn bhī na milī kū-e-yār méń
 How unfortunate is Zafar! For his burial
Not even two yards of land were to be had, in the land of his beloved.

He died in exile on 7 November 1862. He was buried near the Shwedagon Pagoda in Yangon, at the site that later became known as Bahadur Shah Zafar Dargah.



Though Subhash Bose could never have written such feelings, did he not deserve a piece of his motherland for his final resting?

His remains are preserved in Renkoji Temple in Tokyo, since September 18, 1945.


मैंने जापान में  पढ़ा था कि रेनको-जी के पुजारी चाहते हैं कि हिंदुस्तान बोस बाबु की अस्थियाँ/राख ले ले तो उनकी आत्मा को पूर्ण संतृप्ति मिलेगी.
पर भारत में इस विषय पर बात करने पर भावनाओं को ठेस लग जाती है. इस वजह से इतने दशकों के बाद भी रेनको-जी प्रतीक्षा कर रहा है की बोस की मातृभूमि उन्हें अपने गोद में बुलाकर चैन की नींद सुला दे.
क्या भारत कभी भी इस अंतर्द्वंद से बहार निकल कर रेनको-जी को सम्मानित करेगा?
क्या सुभाष चन्द्र बोस को नसीब नहीं होगी दो गज ज़मीन मादरे वतन में ?




  


जापानी सीखिये & सर्वश्रेष्ठ हिन्दी ब्लॉग सूची

Collection of Hindi blogs that I found and therefore would like to showcase on my blog


The Best Hindi Blogs - सर्वश्रेष्ठ हिन्दी ब्लॉग सूची 

http://hindi-blog-list.blogspot.com/

 

जापानी सीखिये

http://hindi-japan.blogspot.com/ 

 

NHK WORLD Hindi

http://www3.nhk.or.jp/nhkworld/hindi/top/index.html


एक जापानी की हिंदी यात्रा...

http://namaste20matsu.blogspot.com/





The Indian Food Meridian

Delicious Indian Food from north to south and east to west...

(do a right click on the links and open in a new window)

Food Special
The State Highway To Aoshi
http://www.outlookindia.com/article.aspx?279396

Eye on the East
Kling Canoes At Tamralipta
The Deccan Trail
Mirpakaya Mango Moghuls
Meen curry
Those Mean Papas
In narmada’s shadow
Sweat Of Shiva’s Back
Oudh Register
Between Korma And Karma
Sher-e-Kabab (Rumoured to be written by Baba Hazara)
Kabab–e-seekh hain hum, karwatein har su badalte hain;
Jal uthta hai ye pahlu, toh woh pahlu badalte hain

(Like a kebab on a skewer am I, tossing ’n turning,
when one side is burnt, they turn me over)
Kisi ko dekh kar, saaqi ke hosh aise ude;
Sharaab seekh pe daali, kabab sheeshe mein

(On seeing someone, the saaqi loses sense so,
pours the wine over the skewer, and the kabab into the glass)

          

             ENLARGE THE IMAGE TO A SALIVA FULL MOUTH

हिंदी कविता - कौन है जो मेरी बात सुने

कौन है जो मेरी बात सुने


कौन है जो मेरी बात सुने,
मौन है जो मेरी बात सुने.

जीवन के दीये में आत्मा की बाती,
एकाकी रह ही नहीं पाती.
अँधेरे, उजाले को चीर कर,
जलता रहता हूँ मैं,
चाँद रात मुझे तकता है
अपनी चांदनी की ठंडक से
सहलाता बहलाता है .

संसार की तमाम रोशनियाँ
जिसके आगे फीकी..
उसने मेरे सौभाग्य की किरण नहीं फेंकी .

सूरज का अगाध प्रकाश
कभी जब तक उम्मीद बंधाता,
अस्त हो जाता है -
यात्री चलता रह जाता है.

कौन है जो मेरी बात सुने,
मौन है जो मेरी बात सुने.


निस्तभ्ध दरख़्त जलाशय सुमन,
शाम का धुंधलका,
घरों को लौटते लोग,
आँखों में उल्लास,
अपनों के पास,
बागों में अपनों के बीच
निडर, पुलकित, शिशु-शावक भांति
करते किल्लोल,
हे प्रकृति, प्रभुकृति, तू ही मुझसे कुछ बोल.


कौन है जो मेरी बात सुने,
मौन है जो मेरी बात सुने.


भौतिकता का आवरण चारों ऑर
मौलिकता का नहीं ऑर - छोर,
निन्यानबे का फेर, अंतहीन,
सौ को होते, देखा नहीं.
अपनों को अपनों के खंजर
बस अवसर की ताक में,
राख हूँ किसी की आँख में.


आ ज़िन्दगी मुझे भस्म की तरह धारण कर
मुझे अपनी ललाट की शोभा बना,
मेरे साथ तप कर, की बन सकें हम पूरक
अपनी कमियों खुशियों की,
और प्राप्त हों उस सीमा को,
जो संबंधों में अनंतिम हो.

मेरा स्वर दूर हवा में विलीन हो गया..
मैं बहुप्रतीक्षित रह गया -
अपने आप में.

कौन है जो मेरी बात सुने,
मौन है जो मेरी बात सुने.

http://www.anubhuti-hindi.org/nayihawa/s/sitesh_shrivastav/kaun_hai.htm

[जब बचपन युवावस्था के रास्ते पर चल पड़ता है तब कहते हैं जवानी की ताक़त खुद बा खुद उसे रास्ता दिखाती है. पर रास्ते की परख करना और रास्ते के अगले छोर पर क्या मिलेगा, इस बात को बताने वाला भी कोई चाहिए. जो ऐसा कोई न मिले तो कोई भी रास्ता अपना सा लगता है. ऐसे ही किसी रास्ते पर चल पड़ा था मैं कभी.
खुद का रास्ता सदा वीरान रास्ता होता है. वीरान रास्ते पर स्वयं से बात होती है और स्वान्तः सुखाय का मतलब पता चलता है. इसी रास्ते पर खुद से की गई बातचीत की एक झलकी है ये कविता. आज भी ताज़ा है यह मुझमे!]

हिंदी कविता - अस्तित्व

wheel of existence - Buddhism

अस्तित्व 


सड़क कभी ख़तम नहीं होती
किसी में मिल जाती ही
मनुष्य ख़त्म हो जाता है
किसी से मिल नहीं पाता है
उसकी खोज खाज की तरह
उसे खाती है - डराती है
कि उसका "अस्तित्व" खतरे में सदा
और...
मानव रहता है बंधा - अपने भय से.

भय एक सच है
दो रूप लिए
'मृत्यु' और 'आत्मविश्वास'
देखा है दोनों से लड़ना यहाँ .
मृत्यु से लड़ना जुआ है - तो
आत्मविश्वास से लड़ना - आशा
और आशा का अस्तित्व - निराशा !

सड़क पर गाड़ियों कि कतार
भीड़ की भीड़ 
ज्वार भाटे की तरह
लपकती लौटती है
रात दिन एक करती
कभी ना थमती है - क्योंकि
'अस्तित्व' का भय सताता है
नींद में भी चैन में भी.

सब दौड़ रहे हैं क्षणिक गंतव्यों तक
नहीं पता अंततोगत्वा कहाँ ...
यह 'नहीं पता' - देता है
जन्म, आजन्म संभावनाओ को
और मैं संभावनाओ का बीज हूँ.
उपायों का आधार
युक्तियों की प्रयोगशाला
ईश्वर से साभार !

मैं मानव हूँ - मिटटी का पुतला
उसी में मिल जाने तक
लड़ता रहूँगा
"अस्तित्व" की लड़ाई
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(written during 1990s, in the wilderness..)
[जब जवानी दीवानी थी, दिल कि आग पेट की आग के आगे थी, तब दुनिया के संघर्ष छोटे लगते थे. उन दिनों को याद करता हूँ आज के सन्दर्भ में तो लगता है की जवानी के दिनों का भटकाव बिल्कुल आज के समय में वैसा है जैसा भटकाव Internet browsing करते समय होता है - अर्थात मजा तो बहुत आता है, अपने अस्तित्व और योगदान का अहसास तो होता है, सोच और mouse कहाँ  का कहाँ पहुच जाता है  पर सच्चाई का धरातल वहीँ का वहीँ रहता है. इंच भर भी हिलता नहीं है.
http://www.anubhuti-hindi.org/nayihawa/s/sitesh_shrivastav/astitva.htm ]

English essay: WOMEN & WAR

“Woman” & “War” are synonymous! Both start with “W” or two “V” joints! This is self explanatory.

History is replete with stories of “Women at War” & “War due to Women”. Now these are two perspectives of the same issue. Let us examine “War due to Women” first.

“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept, and he took one of this ribs … and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a Woman … and Adam said … she shall be called woman because she was taken out of man”

Since time immemorial, women have donned the un-rendered crown of cause to wars & battles between families, communities, kingdoms & nations. Whether they have done it deliberately is a debatable issue but certainly they have been the root cause; or so have been projected throughout history pages.

She was borne out of man’s “ribs”; she became cause of history’s famous “rifts”!!

But here, I take up the perspective, which has been closer to my heart – Women at War.

“TUM KO DHOONDHA PEEDA MEIN TUM ME DHOODHOONGI PEEDA – MAHADEVI VERMA”
"तुमको ढूँढा पीड़ा में तुममे ढूंढूंगी पीड़ा - महादेवी वर्मा"
(I HAVE FOUND YOU IN PAIN; I WILL FIND [my] PAIN IN YOU)

Woman fights that “impossible pain” to bring a new life in our world. Then she rears the child to become a story in its own. “It is Girls Life” to deal with family in which she is born, to deal with the community (read ‘ordeal’) in which she grows up, to deal with husband(s) and his liking –disliking, and then to deal with her children who by default think their creator is an oldie.
Gender bias in all forms is the root cause of “Women at War”.
Foetus killing, educational partiality, puberty –misleading, keep-away-from-boys syndrome, leaving HER family and moving away, One – Way honesty towards husband and reproduction – engine approach rather creator approach and the list goes on.
Are we men, who have written the rules of our society and community over the ages to our comfort, have not acted as tyrants?
No one denies that men are physically stronger. Come, one man in this world, show me your courage and say that being physically overpowering, is willing to go through the seamless pain of delivering a baby! No man has that courage. Tell any man to live a “life-of-a-woman” and see, how he vanishes.
Strangely, we love women. We adore them. We make them our mother, sister, aunt and so on. We love them in all these forms as well. So what’s the catch?
Catch is – we love them with our individual definition and then needs. With all these symbolic / biological relationship forms, one common trait is attached – GIVING. We all like GIVING WOMEN and especially FORGIVING WOMEN and not those who ask ‘something’ in return from us, let alone expecting. Walking along the road see through the eyes of any woman; be it a grown up or a teenager, you will be able to see the held-back attitude reflected in their smile, expression and body language. It seems as their happiness is lent from the so called ‘superior sex’.
 In more than one ways, it is.
The unwritten-but-yet omnipresent society rules were written by the subdued nature of the female species. That is why the war of women has perpetuated centuries or from the day we know history.
Now over the years, definitions are changing in bits and pieces in every major communities but objectives remain the same; keep women battling for their fundamental rights as humans. So the war continues. Women also have participated in wars physically all around the world. From Joan of Arc to Rani Lakshmibai, many women have sacrificed their lives for the welfare of their countries. When we look around we find women excelling in the fields of – science, technology, sports, politics, corporations, writers, arts, movies, medicine.
All the fields are now being conquered by women but why still they fight for their basic rights around the world. Rapes, molestation, lewd remarks and expressions at their workplace, down grading at home front, have all these stopped even in these progressive times? Divorce, separation, remarriage, single hood and widows in all these forms women are the big losers, biggest being their children.
So what do we do to the situation of women so that they share the same stage with men in all walks of life? In my opinion men have to do only one thing for this. BE SUPPORTIVE.
Be a supportive father, brother, or husband and that is all women need today to fight their perennial war. Also, I strongly believe that all the super achiever women in a country or countries should assimilate their achievements and propagate it for the common betterment of women around the globe. Take the case in India, the women’s reservation bill is pending for years and all parties make promises to bring on table and pass it but only during press briefings or election rallies. There has been no consistent and standard national level foundation wherein women can walk in and share their experiences and are encouraged to contribute in the movement.
Someone has rightly said “reasons for the situation of women are women themselves”. And this is quite true if you see through the equations of family especially. They succumb to the emotional factor sheepishly used by their male contemporaries and thus succeed the Man!

I think women and war cannot be distinguished from each other. We do not want women that way. We have loved women in pain. Great painters like to paint ‘women with woes’. Poets have loved to bring out the sadness of women as they find many words to define their grim situation. Leaders like to talk about their education, health and safety in public to gain votes and most NGOs work only in their small areas and have such inflated egos that each one of them thinks themselves as the champion of their cause. So who is the ultimate loser – The Woman.
These organizations, leaders, achievers and super achievers; none have made any collaborative approach for their welfare so nothing significant will ever happen and the war will go on.
I don’t say that there is no hope. I am saying that people do not want it to happen. Mother nature has given enough bearing poser to women to fight their struggle all through their life and women have proved it time and again. Woman’s life is War itself. Nature has sent them with inherent constraints for this. Why we men have burdened their life with extra and cruel (read mean) constraints which leads to a war of a lifetime for them?
Let us understand this and give them that conducive environment where they give birth to not only a biological entity but also a culturally progressive, peace loving, and lovely family which breed community worth living and our world well managed.

                                                                   (written during year 2000)

English Poem - EXTRA – ORDINARY LIFE




Emotions can be tamed
Emotions can be silenced
Emotions can be mastered




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Mastered emotions can backfire
Silenced emotions can choke
Tamed emotions can propel

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Backfiring can be controlled
Choking can be avoided
Propelling could lead to WIN.
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Control is what we need
Avoidance is good at times
Winning is all that matters.

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Win alone cannot win
It has to be Win-Win
Winning alone doesn’t help.

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So, to say, of tamed emotions
Hard to practice its lessons
Emotions that deliver as per need

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All excesses impact badly
Excess emotions hit hardly
Tamed emotions do the best.

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Feelings can be suppressed
Feelings can be expressed
Feelings can be monitored

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Suppressed feelings may crush
Expressed feelings may crash
Monitored feelings will alter

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Crushing a feeling crushes personality
Crashed feeling limits sanity
Altered feelings open new doors!
Personality only distinguishes us
Sanity should be our basic urge
Doors never close, they just lead.
Monitored feelings should be expressed
As expression and feelings God blessed
Untamed feelings cause needless agony.

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Fight between heart and head will remain
Choices of emotions and feelings same
Time and Tide remain the same all over.

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Choice is relative as success and failure
Right or wrong, nothing is sure
Life and Love go hand in hand

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News link: दसवीं में फ़ेल हुए,पिता ने दी दावत

आज की दुनिया की मार्केटिंग आपको हर पल अहसास करवाती रहती है कि आप से बेहतर कई और है. आप कितनी भी बड़ी सफलता हासिल कर ले वो कम है. तो मुझे लगता है कि आपको ताकत अपने आप से ही मिल सकती है क्योंकि अगर आपके अंदर एक कायर है तो आपके अंदर ही एक बहादुर इंसान भी है."
अनुपम खेर, बॉलीवुड अभिनेता
http://www.bbc.co.uk/hindi/entertainment/2012/01/120104_anupam_kher_book_pn.shtml